Wednesday, May 1, 2013

Let me fly..!

Let me fly!

We often hear and read about the news regarding rape and sexual assault incidents. We read it, talk about it and forget it. At the most if we want to ‘feel’ like we have contributed something to the society we go for a candle march. Rather than putting a single effort to change any single person around us, we believe that by lighting up one candle, we are done with our duty. By saying to change any single person around us, I don’t mean it at all that people around us are all rapist or have an unusual mentality. My only concern is about their mentality which makes the rape incident even worse. The discussion doesn’t seem to be a topic of concern but its more like just a new topic to pass comment on and as soon as something else comes up, IPL, elections or even celebrity wedding the so called ‘Important issue’ is vanished!

I know someone will say that but we cant cry on the spilt milk all our life. Agreed..! But before saying so, think about it that did you even try to clean that spilt milk? Did you put any extra effort to make sure that it doesn’t happen again? NO ! I know its very difficult to change everyone and their mentality. There are many societal issues related to it which are considered to be reasons behind it, female feticide, poverty, the ratio of number of men against women in the world and so on.. but I wouldn’t consider them the main reason behind it. We have come across cases in which the father raped his own daughter (Female feticide?), sexual assault at work place in a multinational company (Poverty?), rapes happening from ages (Even from ancient times..) The reason could be anything, the situation can be whatever but the most important thing is the mentality. The cruel mentality of a man, considering him as a ‘Man’ by doing things the way he likes and the way he wants. The mentality of people around him who made him feel since the childhood that he is the man and shouldn’t cry, he shouldn’t feel bad about such smalls incidents happening around him, he souldn’t get emotional after watching a touchy video/movie. Aren’t we making them insensitive, insensitive not only about the society or the environment around them but even about themselves as a human being.

My pen would come to the same topic, that regretting and cursing after something has happened isn’t going to change anything. If you really want to change anything then change the mentality of people around you, change the mentality of your child, your brother, your friend, your father, your uncle and everyone who believes that it’s a societal shame to be rape victim. The accused gets bailed in a couple of months/years and moves on to a normal life, but the victim would always be a victim. A victim of rape and its aftereffects.

Only by changing the mentality of people around us and their attitude towards rape we can bring the true change in the society. That’s the only way to do justice those thousands of women around us who have gone though such incident in their life and to prevent many from that. Don’t blame the society, don’t make the parents scared, don’t stop girls from further education or overseas opportunity, Let them fly! - Ishita Vyas

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